Yuliia Nemchenko: "When a woman feels beautiful, her body responds to her with love"

Yuliia Nemchenko is the author of meditations, yoga teacher for women, mentor and leader of women's retreats that combine bodily practices, meditation and deep work with the subconscious.

In a new interview on the pages of BOMOND VIP fashion, we talk about the path that began with exhausting workouts and the search for the "perfect body", about accepting yourself and creating your own space for women's practices. About how corporeality and consciousness form a new quality of a woman's life, and why real change begins not with discipline, but with self-love.

Today, readers of the magazine will have the opportunity to get acquainted with the practice of manifestation of femininity, which Ms. Yuliia integrates into her retreats and mentorship, as a tool for returning to her own nature, resource and inner support.

"I stopped constantly scolding and punishing myself, and this is where true self-acceptance began," says Yuliia Nemchenko, explaining how exactly yoga became a point of inner transformation for her.

This material shines about the body, which ceases to be a battlefield, and about the woman who regains the right to live in a state of peace, strength and awareness.

Mrs. Yuliia, I am close to your view: "When a woman feels beautiful, her body responds to her with love." I know that it is through your own transformations that you came to work with the subconscious and yoga for women. Tell me, please, what was the starting point of this story? At what point did you realize that this was your calling?

Indeed, this phrase is very resonant with me, because I lived it on my own experience. At the age of 21, I even had an eating disorder. At that time, I was working online literally "from the kitchen", and this is not really the best idea for a woman, because you are always close to food. And even if they were healthy snacks, the body began to gradually gain weight.

Then I tried to find "my" way to get myself back in shape. I practiced tabata — very exhausting workouts, went to the gym, did TRX. I reached a state where I was nauseous and I almost lost consciousness after classes. But I kept looking for something where I didn't have to force myself to go through force.

And once I found a short yoga practice on YouTube — literally for 15-20 minutes. It is very comfortable for the brain when you realize that you do not need to train for an hour, but only twenty minutes is enough. That's how, nine years ago, and my story with yoga began.

At first, I practiced on my own on video. It was not easy, but after about a year of regular practice, I noticed that I stopped gaining weight. And it wasn't even just about physical activity. Yoga has its own deep philosophy - because of it I began to have a total acceptance of myself. I stopped constantly scolding and punishing myself, stopped living in internal conflict. It was as if a new conviction was fixed in my head: I should be gentle with myself, and not live through constant self-punishment. And yoga helped me a lot in this - even through short practices from YouTube.

By the way, now I have my own YouTube channel with practices in Ukrainian, and there is still not much of such content. There is yoga for posture, for opening the pelvis, as well as full-fledged practices from my yoga club, so anyone can start their acquaintance with yoga from there.

And the moment when I realized that this was my vocation came after about six to seven years of practice. I went to a yoga retreat in the Carpathians and met many teachers there. It was then that I first saw that you can work for yourself, do what you love and not burn out. It's not about doing 5-10 classes a day and ending up hating yoga.

After that, I began to take one course after another, delving deeper and deeper into the teaching of yoga. Subsequently, I began to conduct my own classes, especially since my girls themselves began to ask for groups.

To be honest, it wasn't a story about quick money. If you want to be a yoga teacher or work with the bodies of other people, you need to be ready for at least half a year just to serve this business - often even for free. Because first you need to put your voice, learn to feel people, understand what requests and pains women come with. And although the problems are often similar, they need to be studied in depth, analyzed and really learn to help.

What do you see as a modern woman? If you imagine that you are an artist and have to depict her on canvas, what features, condition and inner light would this image be filled with?

The modern woman I see today and the women I work with are, unfortunately, very busy women who often forget about themselves. We are so immersed in tasks, business and the constant desire to earn that at some point we lose contact with our own nature.

I believe that women are primarily about creativity and creation. And money can come through this creation, but as a pleasant bonus, not as the main goal. First, there must be a desire to create something with love, and only then - the joy of the fact that it also brings income.

To be honest, I myself sometimes sin with this and also put money in the first place. But every time this happens, I notice that everything starts to work completely wrong. Therefore, it is very important to be able to return to the first cause and ask: "Why am I doing this?"

Why do I work 40 hours a week? Why do I always run somewhere? Often the answer is very simple - for the sake of family, children, well-being, the desire to give loved ones all the best. But sometimes we lose ourselves so much in this race that we forget about the true meaning. And then it is worth at least for a moment to stop and honestly think: do I really need to exhaust myself so much? Maybe I can work less but live happier?

Therefore, I want a modern woman to wake up and remember herself. So that she allows herself to devote more time to her own state, to her body, to her inner world.

Because when a woman constantly ignores herself, the body will sooner or later return this "credit" of energy - due to fatigue, apathy, depression or illness.

That is why it is so important to take care of yourself right now: practice yoga, meditation, invest in your condition, learn to hear yourself and honestly answer the question: "What do I want? Am I in my place?”

And if we talk about the image of a woman that I would depict on the canvas, it would be a woman who has not lost touch with herself. A woman with a calm look, inner light and a sense of harmony. A woman who remembers that she is also important in her own life (with a warm smile on her face says Mrs. Yuliia).

You not only flourish in the profession, but also created a family and became a mother. How do you combine self-realization and personal life? What, in your opinion, is the secret of a harmonious relationship and what values are the main for you in motherhood?

The combination of self-realization and personal life turned out to be more difficult for me than I ever imagined. In my previous relationships, as such, I did not have self-realization — I simply worked in an IT corporation. There was no creativity: I worked my 5–6 hours and that was it. I didn't create content, didn't record meditations, didn't prepare for classes, didn't live my own thing.

It was in the current harmonious relationship that I really opened up - not only as a yoga teacher, but as a mentor who combines psychology and body work. And I think it's extremely important because it's impossible to work only with the head or only with the body. It should always be a comprehensive approach.

That is why in my mentorship I combine nutrition, yoga, psychology and work with beliefs. We work on the body, posture, women's health, understand how nutrition affects the condition and weight, learn to build a full-fledged diet without fasting and exhaustion. Because a woman definitely doesn't have to be hungry to lose weight is a big stereotype.

We also work with internal limitations and beliefs. After all, very often a woman simply does not allow herself to live differently, to earn more, to manifest herself, to be happy. And then you need to go deeper — look at your attitudes, at relationships with parents, at those models in which we grew up. Because to a large extent we really consist of the beliefs of mom and dad.

Therefore, in my work, I use theta-healing techniques, meditation, relaxation practices and yoga - all so that a woman not only changes the body, but changes her inner state.

And if we talk about family and harmonious relationships, then I think that the main secret is in the desire to serve each other. Not only to take and think: "What do they give me in this relationship?", but focus on what I myself can give to the person next to me.

For example, now, while I'm recording this interview, my husband is sleeping, although it's already lunch. But I know that he works a lot and it is important for him to recover. So I was happy to wake up earlier, stayed with my son, fed him, played with him. And for me it's not a sacrifice, it's a manifestation of love and care.

That's what I call true service in a relationship. When you sincerely want to give a person a resource, support, warmth. And then the other person also wants to do the best for you. This is how harmony is born - not in consumer or "business partnership" relationships, but in true reciprocity, love and respect.

I want to pay special attention to the theme of meditation. Many people admit that it is difficult for them to concentrate, be in silence even for a few minutes, and the first attempts often end in disappointment. How to start the practice of meditation so that it really becomes a support?

I can write a book about meditation and talk for a very long time, so I sincerely thank you for this question. In fact, many people just don't give meditation enough chance. To be honest, I can't even imagine how I can live without it. If I do not meditate for at least one day, I feel the difference in my condition very sharply. For me, 15-20 minutes of meditation a day is an opportunity to sleep normally, function, be a soft, calm, feminine wife and mother.

But there is one very wrong stereotype: people think that during meditation there should not be a single thought in the head. As if you sit down, close your eyes - and there should be absolute silence. And when this does not happen, people are disappointed, because it seems to them that they "do not know how to meditate".

In fact, everything is completely different. When we close our eyes, we just truly begin to see our thoughts for the first time. In ordinary life, we are constantly in information noise and do not even notice what is happening inside. And during meditation, it's like the light in the room turns on, and you see everything that has accumulated in your head.

That is why at the beginning it can become even louder and more anxious. But it's okay. This does not mean that meditation does not work - on the contrary, it means that you have finally begun to hear yourself.

In the first 5-10 minutes, it is very important not to fight your thoughts and not to try to "forbid" them. They need to be given a chance to show up. Just watch them. And it is after this that true relaxation, silence and inner peace gradually come.

I always advise you not to start this path completely on your own. The best thing is to work with a mentor who will explain why meditation feels easy today and not tomorrow, help you understand your condition and properly go through this process.

It is also very important to start using guided meditation — meditation with vocal accompaniment. When you are led by voice, it is much easier for the brain to relax and not get lost in its own thoughts. You are told how to breathe, how to relax your body, what to pay attention to.

In my mentoring "Resource Woman", I prepare personal meditations for women every week, explain their condition and help them gradually learn to hear themselves. I also give one of the meditations from my mentorship specifically for beginners — for those who have never meditated or have already tried, but remained disappointed. It helps to gently relax the body, see your thoughts without fear and feel the same inner peace for which people come to meditation.

You are the author of meditation. Is there any one among them that you consider particularly valuable or significant to yourself? Why exactly her?

The most valuable for myself, I think is the meditation that I give to women today. It is very deep, but at the same time suitable for absolutely all levels - both for those who have never tried to meditate, and for those who already practice.

It is based on the Vipassana technique, that is, observing one's thoughts. It sounds very simple, but in fact most people don't know how to do it. Once I didn't understand this, so I was taught by my teacher, my teacher. And today I already pass this knowledge on to other women.

It's a really simple technique, but it requires a bit of discipline and regularity. And I am absolutely sure that when a woman masters it and begins to practice every day, her life changes dramatically. At least, the constant internal irritation disappears, the chaos in the head, there is more peace, softness, femininity.

I often say that meditation helps a woman return to her nature. If you are active, fiery, very energetic, your energy ceases to dissipate in all directions and begins to go exactly where it needs to be. Focus, inner support and clarity appear.

In general, there are many different meditations in my space, and they are all special to me in their own way. These are meditations on the disclosure of femininity, on the internal resource, on health, on accepting oneself, on the disclosure of the inner goddess. There are even meditations on the ability to receive gifts from the world and allow yourself more.

And it is these practices that most often receive a very strong response from my students, because they really quickly change the internal state.

For me, meditation is a kind of key to the resource. If you are now in a negative, exhausted or depressed state, meditation helps to literally reconfigure yourself to the state in which you want to live. It can be confidence, peace, self-love, a sense of abundance or inner strength.

That's why I always say: meditation is not about escaping from reality. It's about returning to the real self.

We live in a time when the ability to take responsibility for one's own life becomes extremely important. You work with the theta session method, which helps you work with subconscious installations. Please introduce us to this tool: what is its essence and what requests does it work most effectively with?

Thank you for this question. In fact, theta healing is a very deep and at the same time extremely interesting method of working with the subconscious.

To put it simply, the "theta" is a certain frequency of our brain's work. Our brain is constantly in different states and oscillates at different frequencies. For example, when we actively work, learn, analyze, the brain functions on faster waves. But theta state is a very deep, relaxed state between sleep and wake.

Probably everyone felt this moment when you seem to be falling asleep, but you are still aware of yourself, you can feel a slight twitching of your arm or leg. It is in this state that the brain slows down, and gradually turns off the constant critical evaluation of itself.

This inner noise disappears:

“Am I good enough?”

“Wid I be appreciated?”

"Am I doing the right thing?"

And that's when a person begins to hear his true answers, not just attitudes imposed by society, social networks or other people's expectations.

During the theta session, through a special meditation, I help a person to enter this state of deep relaxation, and then we work directly with subconscious attitudes, fears and internal limitations.

Most often they come to me with topics of self-worth, relationships, fear of change, realization, internal prohibitions. For example: "I am not appreciated", "I am afraid to manifest myself", "I can not afford more", "I want to change my life, but I am afraid".

And very often the roots of these states go back to childhood, from family scenarios, which we unconsciously take over from our parents. If the child grew up in an environment where mom and dad did not value themselves, then in adulthood she often does not know how to appreciate himself.

That is why in theta sessions we do not just talk about the problem, but look for its true root. Through questions, memories, inner images, a person begins to see where exactly this or that fear or block was born.

I am a certified theta-hiler and studied at the American Vianna Stibal Institute. And, to be honest, this method has become one of the most ingenious tools for me to work with the psyche.

I have seen so many incredible transformations: women came out of dependent relationships, allowed themselves a new life, changed jobs, moved, began to manifest themselves, build healthy relationships and finally feel inner freedom.

And what is especially valuable to me is that these changes often happen much faster than people expect. Women who have worked with psychologists for years often come to me, and after a few theta sessions begin to really feel changes in their condition and life.

Perhaps it is no coincidence that since I was a teenager I was very drawn to psychology. I read books, wanted to learn in this area, and today I am sincerely glad that I still came to this path - through theta healing, meditation and deep work with women.

Today, many people live in a state of constant tension, regardless of whether they are in Ukraine or abroad. There is chronic fatigue, anxiety, sleep problems, a feeling of loss of support. Where to start the restoration of the resource? How to regain ease and desire to live a full life?

If we talk about the restoration of the resource, then, in my opinion, the recipe today is universal for everyone - regardless of whether a person lives in Ukraine or abroad. I work mostly with women, so I will talk more about them, but, to be honest, even for my husband, this principle works the same way.

The first thing to start with is working with the body and regular meditation. At least 3-5 workouts or practices per week and at least a few meditations every week. Ideally, daily contact with yourself.

Because today we live in a state of constant information noise. We spend a lot of time on our phones, consume other people's content, look at other people's lives, start living with other people's desires, other people's goals and other people's dreams.

And where our attention is, there is our energy.

And at some point a person loses contact with himself so much that he does not even understand:

"What exactly do I want?"

“Do I really want it or was it imposed on me?”

"Is this my dream or just a beautiful picture from social networks?"

Maybe someone doesn't really need expensive things or a constant pursuit of success. Perhaps a person wants a simpler life, more peace, nature, family, creativity or inner freedom. But you can only hear it when there is silence inside.

That's why I always bring women back to body and meditation. Through the body, we begin to feel ourselves, and through meditation, we begin to hear our true desires, not the noise around us.

And the more a person practices this contact with himself, the more there is inner lightness, clarity and understanding of where he really wants to go.

I propose now to imagine that you and I are somewhere on the ocean shore ... And we have many postcards that we will send to every woman on the planet. What message would you write?

I would write: "My dear, you already know a lot of things and can do. Please believe in yourself as no one has ever believed. Believe that the impossible is possible.”

And I would also really like every woman to start taking care of herself and choosing herself. Because if I choose myself, I do something for my body and mental state every day: yoga, meditation, rest, taking care of myself.

Then there is lightness, a beautiful and healthy body, inner peace. Then you begin to be your real self, not an irritated and exhausted version of yourself that lives only in the noise of social networks, constant fatigue and other people's expectations.

It seems to me that today it is very important not to lose touch with yourself, to listen to your desires, to serve humanity and the world and to remember that our condition is the basis of everything.

Therefore, I want to say to every woman who is now reading these lines: do not postpone taking care of yourself for later. Start today. After this interview, you already know where to find me on YouTube and Instagram. I will be sincerely glad to meet you!

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