Maryna Shevchuk: "I want every woman to allow herself to return to her"

Sometimes life changes not gradually, but in an instant. It destroys the usual resistances, poses pain, uncertainty and questions to which it is impossible to find answers outside. That's when the most important journey begins - to yourself.

Maryna Shevchuk is a spiritual mentor, author of the course "The Guide of the New Time", a woman who went through a personal crisis, the loss of her usual life, emigration and a deep inner transformation. Today, it helps people find their own answers, return contact with themselves and discover new meanings through conscious spiritual development.

In a new interview on the pages of BOMOND VIP fashion, we talked about a woman without masks, about inner freedom and leaving the cage of other people's expectations. About motherhood as one of the deepest spiritual paths, about the creation of the author's program "The Guide of the New Time" and the practices that help a person to hear himself.

"Don't put off your life. Don't wait for the perfect moment, because it may not be. Start living your life right now," says Mrs. Maryna.

About the path through the crisis to the vocation, about honesty with yourself, love, freedom of choice and return to one's own strength - between the lines of conversation with the heroine of the new DIGITAL cover.

Mrs. Maryna, today I would like to start our interview with the words that became the beginning of my acquaintance with you: “The strongest thing is not to fight. And to be. In their truth, in their values, in their capabilities.”

I think these words will be relevant, probably at all times. Tell us, please, what was your personal beginning of history before your appointment to be a spiritual mentor and pass on your own knowledge to guides?

In fact, my journey did not begin with the desire to pass on knowledge to others. It started with a personal crisis and deep inner pain.

It happened in about forty years. Until then, I lived a fairly stable and, as it is customary to believe, successful life. Family, own business, apartment, car, recognition, love - all things that are usually associated with realization and well-being.

However, the beginning of a full-scale war was an extremely strong turning point for me. We were forced to leave Ukraine and move to Austria. The very fact of forced emigration was very painful. We have lost the sense of home, support and habitual life. Financial difficulties were added to this, because we are not used to living in a regime of constant restrictions. The most difficult thing was that we did not understand how to build our lives further. We did not know the language, did not see prospects and could not find a business in which we would feel fulfilled.

Against this background, relationships within the family began to collapse. The eldest son stayed in Ukraine and could not go with us. During that period, my husband and I began to quarrel a lot, tension accumulated every day. Children began to get sick, although our family had practically no health problems before. Then I got sick too.

At some point, my relationship with my husband was on the verge of rupture. At that time, it seemed to me that absolutely everything around me was being destroyed. But then I realized: the most important thing that was destroyed at that time was my relationship with myself.

It was then that I realized that I could no longer live as before, and I had to radically change something. I started looking for activities in which I can realize my potential and find new meanings for myself.

First there was one mentor, then another, then new teachers and new knowledge. I went through the path with mentors and teachers who helped me understand myself, gave me the tools to work on my psychological, emotional and spiritual state. Step by step, I learned to hear myself, look at life circumstances in a different way and find inner support even in the most difficult periods of my life.

However, in the process of work, much deeper changes began to occur. I understood why life brought me to this crisis and why all this happened. Today I am clearly aware that the path of the spiritual leader is not always chosen voluntarily. If this is a person's path, but he does not accept it, life will still find a way to lead him there through certain events and experiences.

Gradually, I began to restore myself. And I saw how the inner harmony changes the external reality. Relationships in the family have changed. The children stopped conflicting with each other. My husband and I began to see and hear each other differently. Even the physical condition of the whole family has improved.

Then I realized I didn't want to stop. I continued my studies, mastered new tools and techniques. At the same time, I realized an important thing: what helped me, although it was very effective, does not suit everyone. Not everyone is ready for rapid and radical transformations. Someone needs a softer path, a different pace and a more gradual healing.

That's why I began to study different approaches to spiritual development and internal changes. Over time, all this was combined into its own transformational system, which I created based on personal experience, many years of training and practice.

I am convinced that every person can be a guide. First of all, for myself. The ability to understand yourself, restore inner balance and find your own healing tools is already a sufficient and valuable path.

At the same time, there are people who feel called to help others walk this path. It is for them that there is a role of spiritual mentor and guide.

Therefore, my program is created both for those who want to get to know themselves deeper and change their own lives, and for those who strive to work professionally with people and accompany them in the process of transformation.

It is extremely important for me that this system was not born from theory. She was born from lived experiences, crises, searches, learning and real changes.

Today I clearly understand: a spiritual mentor is not a person who speaks beautifully about transformation. This is a person who has gone his own way, knows the value of internal changes and is able to lead the other through this process, relying not only on knowledge, but also on his own living experience and tools that really work in transformation, healing the soul.

If you were an artist and you needed to paint a portrait of a modern woman, what would it be like in your eyes? What features would be inherent in this image, what colors would you choose and what would be the atmosphere of this portrait?

If I needed to create a portrait of a modern woman, I wouldn't focus just on beauty, lightness, or a smile. For me, a modern woman is primarily a woman who recognizes her strength, knows her true self and is not afraid to face the truth.

In this portrait there would be a woman with a deep look. A woman who does not hide her pain, if there is one, and does not pretend that her life consists only of easy and beautiful moments. After all, every person comes into this world with their own lessons, trials and experiences.

Today we often see images of women who show only the ideal side of life. But behind these images often hides authenticity, which we do not notice. That is why, for me, a modern woman is one who is ready to take off her masks and show herself as she really is. And it is in this honesty that I see true strength.

She can be a mother, wife, expert, entrepreneur or creator. She can realize herself in any role. But most importantly, she strives to know herself, understand her true desires and live in harmony with them.

I would like a modern woman not only to take responsibility and overcome difficulties, but also to allow herself ease. She allowed herself to enjoy life, dream, love, relax and enjoy what she has. That she listens to herself, and not just to the expectations of society or the imposed standards.

Therefore, the colors of this portrait would be warm, deep and lively shades - the colors of inner wisdom, love and peace. And its atmosphere would be filled with authenticity, freedom and acceptance.

For me, a modern woman is first and foremost an honest woman. A woman without masks. A woman who lives in love for herself and is not afraid to be herself.

In today's realities, women quite often find themselves in a kind of cage. It is a cage of other people's expectations, a cage of society's rules, a cage of constant comparison. In all this, a woman often loses herself. And returning to yourself is probably as important as being able to breathe, feel, see and speak. What are the first steps, in your opinion, a woman should take to open this lock and get out of this cage?

The first step is to admit that this cage exists. And that you are in it now.

At the same time, for each woman, such a cage looks different. It may seem to some that the cage is an external limitation. But in fact, very often it consists of internal programs: living according to other people's rules, abandoning one's own desires, a constant desire to meet other people's expectations.

To put it figuratively, one of the most common cells is the "good girl" program, when a woman tries to be comfortable, correct and good for everyone except herself. Therefore, the first step to freedom is to see it and honestly admit it.

I wouldn't start with global decisions. I would start with simple questions to myself: "What do I feel now?", "What do I really want?", "Where do I cheat on myself?", "Where do I act out of fear, not out of my true desires?", "Where do I choose not myself, but convenience for others?". It is this honesty with yourself that becomes the beginning of change.

The second important step is to stop comparing your path with someone else's. Each person has his own history, his own lessons, his own starting conditions and his own pace of development. Very often we look at a beautiful picture of someone else's life and do not see the experience, pain, difficulties and transformations that are behind this picture. Therefore, comparison almost always gaves us away from the real ones.

The third step is to regain the right to choose. In fact, each of us has a choice, but very often we forget about it. We live as it is convenient for others, as it is right according to the rules of society or as expected of us. We gradually lose touch with our own desires.

That's why I suggest starting with small decisions. Ask yourself: "What do I want today?", "Where do I want to go?", "What will bring me pleasure?". Through such simple daily choices, a woman gradually regains a sense of her own life.

And another important thing is to work not only through the mind. It is very important to learn to feel again. Your heart, your body, your emotions. Our body always shows where fear lives, where the pain is hidden, and where our true strength is.

That is why in my work I use various practices that help a person to hear himself. That inner voice that we often drown out with external noise. I call it my true self. And when a woman begins to hear this voice, she gradually finds answers to the main questions of her life, understands what step to take next, and finds her own way out of the cage in which she once found herself.

Special attention should also be paid to the fact that you are the author of the course "The Guide of the New Time". Please introduce us to this training and its values.

The course "The Guide of the New Time" is my special pride. I didn't just create it — I lived it, gave birth to it through my own experience and today I see the results of my students. And that's why I can confidently say: this program really works.

For me, it's not just a set of techniques or tools that allow you to help other people. First of all, it is the path of a deep inner transformation of the person himself. I am convinced: it is impossible to become a guide for others until you have learned to be a guide for yourself.

That is why training begins with personal work on yourself. We learn to get out of destructive scenarios, free ourselves from internal restrictions, restore contact with ourselves and our true needs. And only after that we move on to learning the tools that help accompany other people on their way.

Today I see how important this approach is. Many people strive to help others after their own transformation, but often rely solely on their own experience. However, personal experience is not a system or a methodology. In order to be a mentor, it is not enough just to go through the crisis and get out of it. It is necessary to understand how a person's internal processes work, have tools, know the basics of spiritual development and be able to accompany others ecologically.

That is why in my course I combined practical tools, working with states, psychological aspects, meditative practices, in-depth analysis, understanding of internal programs and cause-and-effect relationships.

We study not only how to help a person, but also how not to harm him.

A special place in the program is occupied by the practice of nailing. For me, this is one of the most powerful tools of transformation. At the same time, I always emphasize: this tool is not suitable for everyone and not at every stage. Sometimes a person first needs to go through other internal processes, and only then work with such powerful practices. That is why in the course we pay a lot of attention to awareness and readiness for certain changes.

For me, the conductor of the new time is a person who does not create dependence on himself. On the contrary, it helps the other to regain contact with his own soul, body, inner wisdom and his path. The guide does not say, "I know how to live properly." It helps a person to hear their own answers and find their direction.

I always say that a guide is not a savior. This is a person who creates a safe space for transformation and knows how to accompany this process ecologically and consciously.

Another feature of my course is that I don't leave students alone with recorded lessons. Despite the fact that it is a curriculum, I call it mentoring. I personally accompany each student, conduct analysis, answer questions, support in the process of learning and development.

It is important for me that everyone feels heard, understood and accepted. That is why the course is built not only on knowledge and tools, but also on deep respect for the person and sincere love for people.

Motherhood opens up completely different facets in a woman. It shows that love can erase any boundaries, and for the sake of those we love, we continue to move forward and try to create the best future for children. Tell us, please, how has motherhood become for you and what values do you feel the main thing for yourself in it?

Motherhood for me is a deep spiritual path. I am a mother of four children, and today I can say that it is through motherhood that I discover many facets in myself, the existence of which I did not even know before.

Every child is a teacher for me. With each I get to know myself in a new way, learn love, acceptance, responsibility. But at the same time, through motherhood, I see my own fears, my own limitations. I realize how often I try to control, how many expectations I can have on children and how easy it is sometimes to confuse love with the desire to decide everything for them.

If you look at my motherhood, I see a lot of answers in it. We can talk for a long time about spirituality, development and awareness, but it is in the family, next to children, that it is best seen who we really are. It is there that it becomes clear where we act out of love and where out of control. Where we accept the child as it is, and where we try to adjust it to our own expectations.

A special place in my life is occupied by the topic of child development. I worked in this field for more than twenty years, creating educational programs, development centers and educational projects for children. And all this time I was talking about one very important thing: you don't need to raise comfortable children.

Because comfortable children very often grow up in adults who do not know their desires, are afraid to talk about their needs and constantly try to meet other people's expectations. Today, working as a spiritual mentor, I often meet such people. And I see how important it is in childhood to help a child maintain contact with himself.

I want children to be able to express their own opinion, talk about their desires, make mistakes and not be afraid of mistakes. Learn to hear themselves and trust themselves.

Of course, my motherhood is different. I also go through control, through excessive experiences, through the desire to put straws on children and protect them from all difficulties. As a mother, I often want to make their journey easier. However, the real support is not to live life for the child, but to give him the opportunity to live it on her own.

Today I see that despite all my mistakes, I manage to keep the main thing — contact with children. They can always talk to me about their desires, and I hear them. And for me, it's a huge value.

If we talk about the main values of motherhood, then for me it is love, honesty, support and freedom to be myself. It is very important that the child knows: he does not need to deserve the love of his parents. It is valuable by the very fact of its existence.

Children can be different. They can look for themselves, make mistakes, change, doubt, choose their own path. But love should not depend on their successes or achievements.

I want every child to feel unconditional love. Because for me it all starts with love. And I am convinced: the true relationship between parents and children can only be built on her.

Finding your own purpose, understanding yourself, your fears and opportunities, creating harmony in life is a real value. But even greater strength is perhaps the ability to pass on this knowledge to other people so that they can also move at the call of their heart. You train guides and help people become mentors for others. What advice would you give to those who are just at the beginning of this path?

The first and probably the most important advice is not to try to save others.

This is really very important, because often, as soon as we master an instrument or receive the first results of our own transformation, there is a desire to immediately "save the whole world". And this is where many make one of the biggest mistakes.

Subsequently, this often leads to exhaustion, burnout and loss of internal support. I speak of this from my own experience. People often come to me who are just starting their journey or already have certain knowledge, but are so immersed in the rescue of others that they have lost themselves.

That is why it is important for the conductor to honestly answer the question: with what intention do I go to people? Do I really want to be useful? Do you want to help and support? Or maybe I'm trying to satisfy my own ego because of it?

When we strive to help everyone without exception, very often it is no longer about service, but about the need to be needed. That is why it is so important to remember the responsibility of both parties. The client or student should also be ready for their own result, for their own work on themselves. Without it, there is no real energy exchange.

The second tip is to study.

Today I often see situations when a person goes through one practice, gets his own experience and the next day he starts working with others. For example, he stands on nails, undergoes a certain ceremony or transformation, and then immediately tries to guide other people through this process.

But it is important to understand that no tool is universal. What helped you won't necessarily work for someone else. That is why the mentor should not just use the tool, but deeply understand its nature, capabilities and limitations.

The third tip is not to copy someone else's path.

In training, everyone receives the same basic tools, but after completing the course, I don't see two identical guides. And that's great.

Every person comes into this world with their own experience, their own talents and their own unique wisdom. The teacher's task is not to create a copy of himself, but to help the person to reveal his own potential.

I always tell my students: your strength is not to be like someone. Your strength is to become yourself.

When a person begins to reveal himself, he discovers his own talents, begins to feel better, to trust his knowledge, his intuition and his path. That's when a true guide is born.

And another piece of advice that I think is extremely important is to be honest with yourself.

Don't wait for the moment when you become perfect. No need to hide your fears, shadows or imperfections behind beautiful masks.

People always feel authentic.

Therefore, for me, honesty is one of the main qualities of a guide. Not perfection, not perfection, but honesty. After all, it opens the way to true trust, depth and transformation.

Nailing is a practice that has been considered a deep tool of transformation for many years and works on several levels at once. It helps a person to free himself from internal blocks and discover new resources. Tell us, please, what is its strength and with what requests people most often come to this practice?

Nailing is one of the key practices in my work, and it is dedicated to it that my author's method and book, which is currently being prepared for publication. For me, this practice was never about enduring pain or proving my own strength. First of all, it's a meeting with yourself.

When a person stands on the nails, he encounters his true fears, desires, internal limitations and what he often hides even from himself. It is impossible to play a role or wear masks on nails. That is why this practice becomes a point of deep inner transformation.

It is very important to understand that pain is not the main purpose of nailing. If the ceremony is carried out correctly, a person can pass it without severe pain. Much more important is the internal process that starts during the practice. At this moment, a person begins to better understand himself, his true needs, realizes what decisions need to be made and in which direction to move forward.

Each ceremony is completely unique. No two practices are the same, because each person comes with their own story, their own experience and their own requests. For me, as a guide, it is important not just to guide a person through this process, but to help them see the meanings and awareness that open up during practice.

Nailing works on several levels at once: through the body, emotions and the inner state of a person. Through physical sensations, the accumulated tension is released, through emotions, experiences that could have remained inside for years come out, and at the level of consciousness, many life processes are rethought.

That is why people often come to this practice with questions about realization, relationships, finances, internal resistance, finding their way or wanting to get out of a life crisis. Very often, after a ceremony, a person begins to see a solution where he previously saw only a dead end.

Over the years, I have seen many stories of profound changes. Someone decided to make important life decisions, someone came out of long-term crisis states, someone discovered new opportunities in the professional or personal sphere. But the main value of practice is not in external results, but in the fact that a person returns to himself, begins to hear himself and restores confidence in his own path.

For me, nailing is about strength, trust, and honesty with yourself. And when this encounter with yourself happens for real, changes in life become a natural consequence of internal transformation.

You look very confident and impressive on stage during your performances, and you always feel that your eyes are literally burning with your business. So I propose to imagine that you are standing on the stage again, and your word can be heard by women from all over the world, in any corner of the planet. What would be your message for them today?

If women all over the world could hear me today, I would only say one thing: stop waiting for permission to be myself.

Don't wait for someone to confirm that you are good enough, beautiful enough, wise enough or ready to start. Don't put off your life for later. Don't wait for the perfect moment, because it may not be. Start living your life now. Choose yourself today.

Very often we think that first we need to learn something else, become more confident, calmer, stronger, and only then allow ourselves to be happy. But life is happening right now. And right now you should make a choice in favor of yourself and your true desires.

Every woman has her own story. There are moments of strength and moments of weakness, victory and loss, doubts, fears and disappointments. But it is this experience that shapes our inner strength. It is he who makes us real.

I am deeply convinced that we do not come into this world to deserve love. We come to feel it. We are born to live, love, create, create new meanings, realize our ideas and fill this world with ourselves.

Therefore, I want to wish every woman to return to her true self. To the one who knows what he wants. To the one who can say "yes" when she wants to say "yes", and "no" when she really wants to say "no". To the one that is not afraid to manifest itself, does not try to be comfortable for everyone and does not reduce its own value.

Allow yourself to be yourself. Allow yourself to dream. Allow yourself to follow your desires without feeling guilty.

And remember: you don't need to fix anything. You already have everything you need to create your life the way you want it to be.

Live. Love. Create. Appreciate yourself. Respect every moment of your life and boldly go to meet your own happiness.

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