Anna Malieieva. About the call to help women, the values of motherhood and scenarios of a happy life

The conversation with Anna Malieieva was a manifestation of a story that proves the main truth: the most important journeys do not begin when we buy a ticket, but when we allow ourselves to go beyond the old scenarios.

A female coach, co-founder of "Coparenting", a mother of many children ... in the modern world, where a woman often measures her value by the number of roles she has performed, Mrs. Anna brings us back to the important decision - to be ourselves.

Along the ocean, in the rain and heat, in times of greatest turbulence - this is an interview about happiness that goes far beyond the usual picture and the unconditional desire to hear the inner voice. As part of the "Woman of Modernity" project, the pages of the women's magazine BOMOND VIP have a story about the state of love, not struggle.

Mrs. Anna, I'll be honest, I was really looking forward to our conversation. And today I want to start the interview with the words you recently left on Instagram: "...The universe has its own plans for us and He knows what is for us the best." I am very impressed by this look. Tell us, please, what was your personal story before the role of a female coach?

I started my journey with finding myself.

I was already in my 35s when I felt like I was living a life that wasn't mine.

I was a married mother of two children, had a furnished house, a favorite job of an associate professor at the Department of Maritime and Customs Law... Externally - a "picture of happiness". Inside there was a quiet voice that did not give rest: "You have strayed from your way."

I was able to draw this picture for others and for myself, to persuade that everything was fine. But the internal compass pointed in a different direction.

Then for the first time I came to the best specialist for me - the coach. For a long time I learned to love myself, to hear myself, to understand what I want. She set goals and took her first steps towards them.

There were also therapeutic groups "Inspiring Classes", where I met myself in a new way.

And then my first Pilgrimage Route to Santiago de Compostela: 330 kilometers on foot in 11 days, with a heavy backpack behind my back. Along the ocean, through forests and glades, in the rain and heat. Alone with my thoughts, without escape and masks. It was an experience that broke old restrictions and gave incredible transformations.

Since then, I continue to be interested in spirituality, questions of being, why the Soul comes into the world, how to pass your lessons and reach a new level. I study the laws of the universe and work with the subconscious.

Then, in that Way, I met my true self for the first time.

A year later, I met my beloved husband - exactly the one I imagined on the way to Santiago. And three years later, she gave birth to a daughter Sarochka in the city she had long dreamed of and seen in her visions - Miami.

I know miracles exist. And I know how the intention works. How to form desires, set goals, act and get results.

Last year, I clearly felt the call to help women find their way to themselves. Create a supporting space. Inspire by your own example. Share experience.

So I came to study to be a female coach and received an international certificate.

But my perfectionism and love of depth suggested: move on. I entered the master's degree in psychology. Because I work with human hearts and I want to have not only intuition and experience, but also deep professional support. For me, it's about ethics, maturity and love, not another diploma.

So, in my Coaching sessions, I help Women not with books, not from courses, but through my own experience and transformations that I went through on my own and created my best reality.

My super "skills": sincerity, humor, the ability to combine spirituality and concrete steps, the ability to inspire by personal example and constant development and professional depth.

What is the portrait of a woman of modernity in your eyes? What are her traits?

The Woman of Modernity is not about new roles, but about a deep return to herself. She is in a state of awareness, soft strength and inner freedom. She no longer fights, but allows. It does not prove, but shines. For her, it is important not what they think about her, but who she really is - when no one sees. It combines silence and flow, wildness and tenderness, intuition and structure. She hears where the Soul is calling her, and has the courage not to go against this call.

So, the Woman of Modernity is not a function. This is space.

She can be a mother, a partner, a specialist, but her main quality is to be in touch with herself. Not to live "for", but to live "with".

She is no longer afraid to be soft - because she knows that this is her strength. She allows herself to be uncomfortable, feel anger, want more.

She has an inner support - she knows how to stop in the middle of chaos and hear the silence in herself.

It no longer plays a role, it does not prove its value - it shines. Not because it's perfect. And because it's real.

So, the features that are key for me:

• Awareness - she understands that she creates her life through her own state.

• Inner freedom - the ability to say "yes" and "no" not out of fear, but out of clarity.

• Soft power - knows how to be gentle, but at the same time does not lose its own limits.

• Presence is the ability to be “here and now” without fleeing to the past or the future.

• Authenticity — lives not for someone else's approval, but from a deep sense of one's own value.

Love for yourself and the world is like the soil from which everything else grows.

Today I would like to talk about scenarios. Especially now, I am sure, almost every woman wants to create a life in which she will really shine brightly. How to "rewrite" your own scripts?

The scenario is like old shoes: first it presses, and then it seems as if there is no other.

To rewrite it, you need to get out of automatism. Ask yourself:

— And whose life am I living now?

— Who in me says: "you can't", "it won't work", "be comfortable"?

Rewriting is not erasing. Accept it. With love to look at your path, at how it was formed, who formed it, from what emotions and needs. And only then - gently and honestly - feel: and what do I choose to be next? We rewrite the scenarios not by logic, but by state. Through the healing of bodily reactions, through the recognition of unconscious decisions and the establishment of contact with the woman we are already in another — desired — reality. The scenario is rewritten when we allow ourselves a different self.

This is work with the body, with the memory of the family, with children's decisions. And at the same time — contact with the version of yourself that already lives differently.

What steps will be correct?

The first is to stop. Because we can't hear ourselves when we run.

The second is to ask, "Whose life am I living?" Admit the truth. Not that “everything is good”, but what hurts, it's scary, I want it — and it doesn't work out.

The third is to get yourself back. Those parts that were rejected: strength, desire, body, anger, sexuality, tenderness.

The fourth is to create an intention. Not a plan, but a vector. Where am I going, why, in what state? Allow yourself to dream without permission.

And the main thing is to act not out of fear, but out of the state of Love. Because only it creates a reality that does not collapse with time.

Do small actions that reinforce your new "I". And if it didn't work out, don't devalue it, but hug yourself even tighter.

Where to start?

Out of love. But not to others. And to myself.

From the moment in the morning when you ask yourself instead of anxiety:

— What's good for me now?

— Where do I betray myself, and where do I listen?

It can be a sip of warm water with intention, a movement of the body with love, a word to a child - without haste.

It is worth starting with the body. It is always honest.

When we begin to hear our body, we come out of our heads, from past decisions, from our mother's voices.

Personally, I try to do sports in the morning in the system (either in the park or near the sea), practice yoga and necessarily massage.

And then space appears.

And in space, everything is possible. Big starts small. But the real one.

Special respect deserves and how beautifully, wisely, with love you feel motherhood. What was your mother's role for you personally?

I'm not a perfect mom, but I allow myself to be myself.

My Motherhood changed with me, I grew up, and so did it. It became mature, balanced, conscious. Children are our greatest Teachers in life and older ones have to meet young Mothers and give them concessions, but with love.

Motherhood is not a role, but a dedication. This is a spiritual practice that teaches me every day not to control, but to trust. Not to educate, but to be an example. Not to impose, but to create a space where the soul of the child can be revealed. I'm not a mother who knows better. I am a mother who is learning to see. And to be there for real.

For me, motherhood is a meeting with the Soul. Not a child, it's mine.

Every day I learn more about myself than in all previous years.

Mom is not just about “teaching” or “protecting”. It's also about presence.

Mom is a mirror. And at the same time, the foundation.

My children teach me to be in the moment, in warmth, in truth.

And the main thing is to trust yourself, even when the world says otherwise.

What values are the main values in education?

The values that live in our house are:

• trust (I'm not better - I'm just taller);

• sincerity (don't pretend that everything is fine - if it hurts);

• freedom (you have the right to your "no");

• and Love (not as a reward, but as the soil on which everything else grows).

Acceptance, contact, freedom to be yourself. Children don't come to us to be comfortable. They are like mirrors that bring us back to ourselves. And if we want to give them a decent future, we must learn to be alive in our present. Not perfect, but honest. Not always strong, but sincere.

Parental relationships, including those that exist after divorce, are a very deep topic. In your life, coparenting plays an important role. Please tell us more about your own experience of parenting in tandem.

For me, coparenting is primarily about the interests of children. I have great respect for the role of Tanya (my husband's ex-wife) as Kolya and Savva's mother, and we all understand that the main thing is that children feel love and stability on both sides.

I'm close to the idea that after a divorce, parents can remain a team. We celebrate important moments together, support each other's initiatives, and children see that there is mutual respect between us.

I believe that this is what gives them a sense of security and confidence, regardless of how the relationship between adults has changed.

I am close to the idea that our inner state becomes a mirror for financial well-being. Does this connection really exist?

Yes, and this is one of the strongest connections.

Money doesn't like anxiety. They come where there is a state of trust, actions out of love, the energy of creation.

When a woman is in contact with herself, she attracts opportunities, not knocks them out of life.

Money is about the flow.

And the flow does not go where there is tension, self-treason and eternal "struggle".

Money is not about mathematics, but about the state. About permission. About self-worth. When we are safe inside, reality answers the same. When we act out of tension or despair, money runs away. Because they come to the light. Thank you. For joy. For clarity. To the deep "I can."

Does a woman's attitude affect money?

Yes, attitudes are like icebergs in the subconscious. They manage the course, even if on the surface we "try very hard".

The setting "I'm not worthy" or "a lot is dangerous" blocks movement. In my practice, we don't just rewrite these attitudes — we breathe Love into them. And they are losing their strength.

Instead of flow, we choose survival.

Therefore, it is important not just to "affirm", but to rethink deeply:

— And whose truth is this?

— What do I want to choose now?

And give yourself permission. For more. On a worthy one. With your money, in your hands.

I propose now to imagine that you and I are somewhere on the seashore ... And we have many postcards that we will send to every woman on the planet. What message would you write?

"You don't have to prove anything. You are already valuable.

All the answers are with you.

Even if it hurts, even if it seems too late -

You can start over.

And this time, out of self-love, not out of a desire to save others.”

Instagram. Anna Malieieva

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