Anastasiia Yaroshenko: "I choose to live my life"

Today, a woman is increasingly learning not to meet other people's expectations, but to return to herself, to her own desires, feelings, inner support and the right to choose her own life. On the pages of the BOMOND VIP fashion magazine in a new interview, we open the veil of true value together with Anastasiia Yaroshenko, a psychologist for women. In this conversation, we talked about motherhood, self-worth, femininity, the psychology of the internal state, about why real changes always begin not from the outside, but from honest contact with yourself. And I want to believe that today on the pages of gloss this conversation will be for someone the very moment when a woman will finally allow herself to hear the real self.

Ms. Anastasiia, I am very close to your words that you are not a "all-trades psychologist", but start working only with those requests where you can really lead to the result. Each professional appointment has its own history and its beginning. What was your path and the inner choice that led you to the role of a psychologist for women?

My path to psychology began very early - from about 16 years old, after a lot of stress. It was a period when I lived in a state of panic attacks, fear of being alone with myself, and a complete loss of support. I underwent medication, but at some point I realized that I did not want to remain in this scenario.

The turning point was the book "The subconscious can do everything". I began to look for other ways of recovery - through work with myself, my condition, my psyche and body. It was my first step towards realizing that change starts inside.

Then I went to medicine, graduated from the medical institute, worked as a physiotherapist. But over time, I saw more and more that women come not only for their bodies — they come with their condition, emotions, internal crises.

After the birth of my first child, I delved even deeper into the topic of female restoration, sexuality, libido and body acceptance. This is how my direction of working with women was gradually formed.

Subsequently, I opened my own beauty salon, and after moving to London, I completely switched to the online format.

Today, I work with women on the topics of postpartum recovery, weight loss, self-worth, femininity and sexuality. I created the project "Is everything OK with you" - it is a space where a woman returns to herself and her condition.

I'm not just talking about it — I've gone through this path myself: sudden weight gain, recovery, fears, loss of support. And so I know exactly how to get out of this and how to bring a woman to a stable, living result.

A separate and very important area of your work is the psychology of mothers. When a woman becomes a mother, her life changes almost completely: new rhythms, new values, a different daily routine appear, and with it - fatigue, tension, anxiety and internal doubts. How can a woman live this stage so that, becoming a mother, she does not lose herself?

Oh ...it's not very easy.

Motherhood is one of the most profound and vulnerable periods in a woman's life, especially when she goes through it for the first time and without support. At this point, it is very easy to lose yourself in the midst of fatigue, new roles and inner doubts.

In my project, I am next to women during this period — I help restore not only the body, but also the internal state, support and self-sense.

I also work individually through consultations, where I support women in difficult stages and help them return to themselves again.

In your practice, you combine work with psychological blocks and the body, showing how the inner state directly affects physical changes, including weight. Today we are increasingly talking about the connection between the psyche and the body. How do you explain this process and why do you think working with the inner state often becomes the key to changes in appearance?

Because only working with the internal state, real changes in a person's life begin.

I work at a very deep level, the client and I work out (solve) the root of the problem.

And only in this way changes for the better begin. For example, the process of losing weight takes place on the physical body (as my girls say: "These are miracles").

A lot has been written and said about women's happiness... by philosophers, artists, psychologists, people whose opinions generations will listen to. But at the same time, for every woman, this concept has its own unique meaning. What is the feeling of happiness personally for you and what definition of happiness would you give today?

For me personally, happiness is when I am in balance in all areas of life.

Happiness is when I enjoy myself, when my soul is calm, when I and my family are healthy. And only on such energy do I want to create, I want to do everything. Dreams begin to come true (Mrs. Anastasiia tells with a warm smile on her face).

A modern woman combines many roles: she is a mother, wife, daughter, friend, businesswoman, and each of these roles imposes its own expectations. Added to this are other people's scenarios, social stereotypes and imposed beliefs. How can a woman learn not to drag these other people's scenarios into her life and choose a path that really meets her own needs and values?

Very good question and relevant for today.

To get rid of other people's scenarios and choose your own path, first of all, you need to work on this issue.

But work can only give a result when the woman herself says to herself: “ENOW, I don't want it anymore. I choose to live my life. I really want a change.”

And people come to the aid of people, such as psychologists, who help solve this problem.

I work with clients through the set-up method and MAC cards are two methods that solve the client's problem really quickly.

I use these methods for myself in my life, and they really work.

When I studied at the school of male-female relations, I learned to combine these roles (mother, wife, daughter, woman, businesswoman).

My husband and I now have four children and I am pregnant.

And when I have the tools to combine all these roles, then it's not a burden, but a thrill. It's all to enjoy your life.

Today, the phrase "choose yourself" sounds very often, but there is not always a deep understanding behind it. What, in your opinion, is the real meaning of this choice and from what small but real steps does a woman's path to herself begin?

In my opinion, the real path to yourself does not begin with some big changes. It starts with very simple things - when you at least sometimes stop and honestly ask yourself: "What do I feel now and what exactly do I want?"

Because we, women, are often so much in others, in children, in relationships, that we lose this contact with ourselves at all.

Therefore, contact with the body is very important to me, because through the body it is easiest to return to myself, to my feelings and truth.

I've been practicing yoga for more than 3 years, but it's not just yoga, it's NAKED YOGA. Now I'm doing live broadcasts and I give women 30 minutes - it's like a date with myself.

No expectations, just be with yourself and hear yourself.

And it is with such small moments that the great path begins, when you gradually return to yourself.

This practice once helped me in the postpartum period to regain myself.

That's why I share my experience with the girls too.

I am always for sincerity, honesty and trustworthiness. I always work only for the result and share really proven methods that help and helped me.

I propose now to imagine that you and I are somewhere on the seashore ... And we have many postcards that we will send to every woman on the planet. What message would you write?

I would write not perfect words, but honest.

About the fact that everything is fine with you - even on those days when you do not understand yourself, when you are tired, when it seems that you are lost.

I would remind you that you don't have to run anywhere to become the "best version of yourself" - it's enough to stop at least sometimes and return to yourself, to your body, to your feelings.

Because this is where contact with ourselves begins: from small moments of attention to ourselves, which we so often postpone.

And I know this not from books, I went through this path myself: through the body, through pain, through returning to myself.

Therefore, today I create a space where a woman does not just "lose weight", but meets herself, through work with the psyche, constellations, body, touch and deep contact.

And if you feel ready now, I can guide you this way. Because if I could, then you could too. And know that there is at least one person on the planet - it's Me who believes in you!

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